I started thinking about ways to do something for you when I read The Sydney Morning Herald recently and it had an article about Australia having the worst life/work balance and it made me think about why you should do something for you and the importance of this. The fact we don’t make time for it anymore. Part of our reason for always wanting to move out of Sydney was partly due to this issue.
Everybody in Sydney (and lots of other parts of the world) work their guts out and that is great and we have a wonderful life to show for it, but how happy is it making us and how much time do we have for ourselves and our families? We are working so hard to set ourselves and our families up that we don’t stop anymore to actually appreciate all this stuff that we have.
How do you find your work life balance?
Finding time to yourself is definitely a hard thing when you have a family and you work but if you aren’t happy and you don’t have time for you then the whole system falls down. If either myself or my partner is miserable and not happy, the system doesn’t work. The wheels slightly go off course and we realise we need to find that balance again. As a mum, your priorities are always making sure your family is okay and that isn’t going to change. But it is important to make sure that you are okay and have some down time to focus on what’s important to you. I am lucky that I am married to someone who makes sure we both have that. He gets his time but also makes sure that I get my time too whether that is a weekend away with my girlfriends, a quick drink (which lets face it never is), or going for a run to clear my head. You come back better people, parents and partners.
Have a look at my list of why you should do something for you and how good it will make you feel afterwards. I think you should try and achieve at least 1 item on this list this week because you deserve it. You deserve to feel good about you, we all do.
My ways to do Something for you:
- Go for a walk and listen to great tunes that make you feel inspired, calm and happy. Go on turn the volume up!
- Look at all the good things in your life and focus on them and what is important – sometimes we are so busy we don’t just take a quick peek at how lucky you are. I go through my photos on my phone and am instantly reminded of everything that is amazing
- Get a good night’s rest – Did you know that you are at greater risk of cardiac issues when you don’t sleep well, along with lots of other issues. Check this article out at the Sleep Foundation
- Organise a get together with friends – I know that if I feel down, I only have to catch up with some good mates to clear my head, get me feeling positive again. That’s why they are your good mates.
- Stop comparing your life to other people’s – who cares what everyone else is doing. Focus on what makes you happy, this isn’t their life it’s yours and if you are happy then don’t worry about the others!
- Eat well – I am very much looking forward to eating fish and chips every day when I reach my 80’s but now I feel best when I eat well. Lots of veggies and salad with treats on the weekends. If you eat shit, you feel shit.
- Just sit on the verandah or the beach or a park in the sunshine – Being in nature is a sure way to feel better about stuff. Take in the beauty and breathe.
- Do something productive – What’s on your bucket list? What is something you have meant to do for ages? Set a goal to do it this week!
- Being available and present – Massive one for which I am definitely bad at. I need to put the phone down and be more present. One of my goals was to do this on my Sunday reflecting post.
- Tell your loved ones what they mean to you – We never do this enough. It’s so easy to think everyone knows how you feel but it feels so damn good to hear it so say it again!
- Create a Vision board– Set some goals, create some vision, write it down, find pictures and make things happen. Accomplishment feels amazing!
- Get rid of negative people in your life – Do a cull. It’s hard but as you get older there are some friendships that are toxic and it isn’t worth it. I’ve done it and it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. Life is way to short to be consumed by some people’s negative attitudes.
- A weekend just the two of you – If you are lucky enough like us to having amazing grandmas who would take the kids every weekend if you let them. Do it, take a weekend for you and hubby. It is so great to go back to how it was when it was just the 2 of you, to talk, just hang out and enjoy each other’s company again without being interrupted every 10 seconds. Do it, it’s worth its weight in gold.
Let me know what are some things that you do for you so I can add them to my list. We all deserve to have it because we are worth it and what we put in we get back. Happy Thursday!