How often are you doubting yourself on social media? How often do you judge how you look compared to someone else on when scrolling through all those photos? Too often I am afraid.
Recently I have had a few times where I have doubted myself on my own media. Now I know it is in the public eye so scrutiny is everywhere but in between a few comments thrown around in a group about “poor content” not necessarily directed at me, and my own judgement on what I view as good content, I realised I needed to take a good long look at my own judgement of myself.
I have to admit that when I started blogging and became consumed by social media, I didn’t quite realise how much I was putting myself out there. Sure I am on Facebook and Instagram but my personal profile only allows my friends and only people I choose to view my pictures and all my utterly hilarious status updates.
When I started my blog and started being active on Instagram In The Lyons Den, in particular, I became acquainted with other like minded people. Other mummies and other people living their daily lives and taking pictures. It was great, and to this day I still meet some wonderful, supportive, friendly people who like my photos. I was always going to be the girl that just took pictures. They were never going to be great because I am not a photographer, they were never going to be too white or no shadows because I have 2 light bulbs missing in my kitchen, and it would never be too colourful other than natural because I can’t seem to find any surface in my house that isn’t covered with shit. And even under the shit most of the surfaces are scratched, dirty , sticky or just old so nothing really ever looks that great.
It is also the same with my In the Lyons Den Facebook page. I put up memes, share other blog posts that I enjoy, put my own blog posts up there and also share some photos. Would people like it? Would they be interested in me like those big accounts that get 7,031 likes?
It was always going to be just me and some stuff and my kids.
Just little old me that works, lives a pretty normal life and takes photos. So it isn’t hard to see why sometimes you find yourself wondering if your photos are good enough? Is my story and my life good enough? Does anyone really care what I do in my daily life?
There are days when you doubt your images and you doubt your words and likes and dislikes and then you suddenly realise, what am I doing? Who should it be good enough for? Who am I trying to make happy? Why do I constantly say it is “just me”?
This is my fucking life people! What am I doubting it for?
Another amazing blogger I have discovered recently, The MummySomniac wrote about The Highlight Reel, brilliantly written as always and she is right. The people who do have all the perfectly styled pictures are completely entitled to and should keep doing so. She reminded me that I shouldn’t be grumpy with them, which I think I kind of was. Their reflection is different to mine but that doesn’t make mine bad.
My reflection is authentic to me and if only 2,000 people continue to follow me, along with a wrestling company, some nude guys with candles and a few restaurants somewhere in America, then that is okay. At least I know those people want to follow me for me, not something I am not.
We do put ourselves out there and hope that people like it, it is the world now. We take selfies and hope we have fans. It’s all about the numbers, the likes, who has unfollowed you. But underneath all that, there is a community of other people who are encouraging and telling you how lovely your photos are. If one article on my facebook page inspires someone then I am happy.
Social media has opened us up to critique others and critique ourselves. We judge and be judged in a way we have never been before. But we shouldn’t doubt ourselves and whether our photos are good enough. They are the stories and pieces that make up our life, no one else’s. Our memories in little tiny squares representing a week, a day or a year.
I often flick back through my Instagram and see all the photos I have put up and it is a true reflection of my time. I am definitely not that great at editing them, setting the right backdrop or being overly creative, but it is me. Some days are boring and I don’t do anything. Doesn’t mean my photos aren’t worthy. We should never doubt ourselves because of another photo or compare ourselves to another writer. If only 25 readers actually read my blog at least they read it because they want to.
We need to stop saying this is “just me”.
We need to start saying “this is me” and be proud of who we are.
As they say, the haters are always gonna hate and people will always judge and critique but you must be comfortable in your own skin and be comfortable with what you portray. Everyone’s photos are beautiful regardless of what the background looks like.
Do you have moments of doubt on social media? Feel free to comment below!