I was extremely excited when one of my favourite bloggers Casey from Momma and the Pea discussed doing a post swap! I have followed her blog for a while now and love her sense of humour and some of the amazing things she believes in such as raising globally aware kids. We are both working mums so it was fitting that she wrote about taking her hat off to the Stay at home mums!
I would like to pay tribute to the women who sacrifice traditional careers, sanity, and personal space to stay at home and raise their children. I am in ah! Of you!! My only glimpse into your world is the brief break I get from work from Christmas eve until the New Year or maybe the occasional week’s vacation. By the end of said week, I am pretty much scraping at the walls with my claws to get out. So hats off to the SAHMs from this working Momma!
In theory, I would love to stay at home or work from home. I am unable 1) because I am the bread-winner in our family unit and 2) I would not be able to cut it as a stay at home mom. I know this because it requires more patience than I could muster. I love my baby girl, of course. She is the sun and the moon and all that mushy stuff. She makes me get up in the morning when I’m down. She makes me go to sleep so I can handle the next day, usually by wearing me out with constant chatter and activity, but still, I do it for her. She makes coming home so much more exciting than it ever was before, for there is nothing like being greeted each day by your own personal fan club (yes, I know there is an expiration date on this).
I see the jokes and funny memes on Facebook about parenting. The jokes about moms being coffee and wine addicts and I laugh and share them too, because I do know what they are talking about but perhaps on a smaller scale. I’ve even made a few memes myself!
Some may think it sounds like a dream to stay home versus working. From someone who only hears it for a few hours a day, imagine hearing Mommy 1000 times in one day or perhaps more. I hear it a mere 100 and could bang my head against the wall. Imagine cleaning up spills, dressing, wiping noses, feeding, changing diapers and picking up toys for the umpth time only to turn around to see them back on the floor. And that all happens before most have their first cup of coffee! It is truly a sacrifice that some can pull off and some can not. Some Mommas were born to raise the babes. Some, like myself, always wanted kids and felt they were born to be a Momma only to discover they are quite mediocre at the job. Maybe it’s because it didn’t happen in the usual time frame that was expected and with age, my energy has dissipated. Then there are the mompreneurs that manage to work doing the chaos of kids. In the evening when I do try to write a bit, there are constant interruptions from the Pea. She needs a drink, a snack or a snuggle. All of which I am happy to do, but when I return to work I have to get my train of thought back. So two hats off to you ladies who juggle both all day long!
There is always the age old argument that working moms don’t care about their kids and that SAHMs are lazy. Neither is true and any logical person knows this. There is always a sacrifice whether it is time with the kids or lack of personal time. It boils down to what works for your family and what makes Momma happy! Because you know the saying…if Momma ain’t happy…ain’t nobody happy!
Keep on Mommying, you got this!